Questions are not Greetings

Imagine that every time your child comes home from school, you ask them a series of questions, trying to show that you genuinely care. 

“How was your day?”

“What did you learn?” 

Or “Do you have homework?” 

Do you know what they experience? Do you expect them to respond? What if these feel like just another series of demands on them? Do you know what they experience at school?

Now imagine this shift. Your child walks in; you have been thinking about them. You have prepped a small snack for them. You hand them their snack, saying, 

“Hey, I am so glad you are home!”